“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.”—Thomas Moore (via dopatonin)
There are some things that you have to stop doing to yourself. They’re the things that have been holding you back from moving on to a better perspective.
1. Stop Holding Grudges
Believe us, it would never help. Stop living your life with a heart full of hate. It will affect you more than the person you actually hate. Better let go of him/her, and stop letting others ruin your happiness.
2. Stop Blaming Others
Remind yourself that you and only you are responsible for the situation you find yourself in. Stop blaming others for your problems and better go ahead and fix things for yourself.
3. Stop Spending Money You Don’t Have
Borrowing money and living life on credit cards must be on your ‘stop-doing-right now’ list. Only spend the money you earn or own. There’s nothing wrong in enjoying all the luxuries of life, provided the money is yours.
4. Stop Being Judgmental
Why waste time judging others? Let’s stop being so judgmental and crucifying everyone else who doesn’t seem to fit into our scheme of things. Rather focus your attention in bettering your life.
5. Stop Hanging Out With Wrong People
You are known by the company you keep. Stop spending time with people who suck happiness out of your life. Be in the company of those who inspire you to achieve greater heights.
6. Stop Living In The Past
Past is history, future is mystery; this time is a gift and that’s why it’s called present. Stop wasting time living in the past; rather strive to make your present beautiful.
7. Stop Being Negative
Negativity affects you negatively. Period. Embrace positivity in your life with open arms and stop being negative.
8. Stop Being Idle
Life is too short. Make the most of it by using every moment productively. Stop being idle and make sure you execute your plans in time.
9. Stop Being Jealous
Jealousy leads you nowhere. Explore ways so that others are jealous of you. And that is only possible if you stop being jealous of others.
10. Stop Lying To Yourself
We love to live in denial. Although it’s not possible to lie to ourselves, yet we continue to live in a make-believe world. So stop lying to yourself, and then only you can make your life more meaningful.
Stop doing the above-mentioned things and see the magic for yourself. You would pretty soon realize that life was never so beautiful.
“I definitely believe that when you feel unhappy in a position, dissatisfied with the company you work for, or undercompensated in a role, you need to listen to these shoulds in your mind. However, if you love your job and the work environment, as Tracy indicates that she does, staying can sometimes makes sense. So many people feel unhappy at work, and so few can say that they love their jobs — that’s a luxury to hold onto.”—Colleen Georges, a career coach and co-author of 101 Great Ways to Enhance Your Career
Are you one of those kind of fun loving, active, always-on-the-go kind of people? And do you have a boring, miserable routine on Sundays week after week? If you do, worry no more! With the following wikiHow steps, you can tackle this very…
I wanna try taking a short trip riding a train going nowhere.
Remember those people that raised you, kept you alive, and sent you off to school? Well, they haven’t heard from you in awhile and they’re sort of sad about it. They spend their days puttering around their house, talking about mundane things like yard sales, clouds, and good salmon while you’re living your super cool fun exciting life. You call them and say, “Sorry guys. I’ve just been really busy. Love you so much!” and you really do love them. In your twenties and onward, your parents rock. It’s the time when “loving your parents” is the new “hating your parents.” Perspective and a great psychiatrist are largely responsible for this attitude. But at the end of the day, you can still be super self-absorbed and forget about the fact that someone kept you in their womb for nine months. Use this Sunday to catch up with them and make their year.
2. Exist in a shame-spiraling fugue
Embarrassed by your drunken antics on Saturday night? Did you tell your best friend her boyfriend sucks or send some dirty texts to a guy you met in a deli a year ago, and get no response? It’s going to be okay! Sundays are a perfect day to fugue about the things you have done. Spend 12:00-3:00 p.m. hating yourself, like, a lot. Make grand declarations of abstaining from alcohol and send an apologetic text to deli dude being like, “OMG. Last night was so crazy. A homeless person stole my phone and texted weird stuff to all my friends! But then I went to the homeless shelter and he gave it back to me. LOL!” Around 3 p.m, eat a Chipotle burrito and start to feel better about yourself. Feel your body repairing itself and just feel grateful to be alive. Life’s not all that bad! End the shame spiral and have a celebratory glass of wine.
3. Be bored
There once was a time in your life when not having something to do was the worst thing ever. You felt like you were just waiting for your life to start and desperately wishing for something cool happen. As you get older though, you start to appreciate the nothingness in your life. Life has gotten hectic and caused you to have 10,000 anxiety attacks so spending your day reading magazines, eating Wheat Thins and organizing your closet starts to sound like ecstasy. So go ahead. Be bored. It’s a actually super fun. Masturbate a bunch, catch up on your DVR, and just delight in the fact that you can skip your daily dose of anti-anxiety meds.
4. Go to work
Go into the office to catch up on work without the pressure of a deadline or a nosy boss. Relish in the quiet and be surprised by how productive you can be on a day you’re not required to do anything.
J//K. Don’t do this. ARE YOU INSANE? You must be a workaholic with no social life! NERD FREAK PSYCHO.
5. Forget that it’s Sunday
The days all blend together. It’s dark. Wake up on a Sunday feeling very disoriented and say to yourself, “It feels like a Tuesday…” Fall back asleep. Wake up and go to work only to find that it’s closed. Wonder what it all means and go back to bed.
Collection of fairytales gathered by historian Franz Xaver von SchÃ¶nwerth had been locked away in an archive in Regensburg for over 150 years
This is so exciting! I hope we get to read some of them soon! I love fairytales and folktales (explains my obsession for OUaT), it’s great that we get 500 whole new stories to read, not seen for some time! Amazing discovery!
“People are gonna tell you who you are your whole life. You just gotta punch back and say, “No, this is who I am”. You want people to look at you differently? Make them! You want to change things, you’re gonna have to go out there and change them yourself, because there are no fairy godmothers in this world.”—Emma Swan (Once Upon A Time)
They say that you can tell a lot about a person by the company that they keep. What do your friends reveal about you? Here are some of the things that our types of friends reveal about our personalities:
“In a morbid condition of the brain, dreams often have an extraordinary distinctiveness, vividness, and extraordinary semblance of reality. At times monstrous images are created, but the setting and the entire process of imagining are so truth-like and filled with details so delicate, so unexpected, but so artistically consistent with the picture as a whole, that the dreamer, were he an artist like Pushkin or Turgenev even, could never have invented them in the waking state. Such sick dreams always remain long in the memory and make a powerful impression on the overwrought and excited nervous system.”—Crime And Punishment by Fryodor Dostoevsky (via psych-facts)
“If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.”—Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie (via psych-facts)
As I have a looming 25th birthday on January 25th, here are a few things for which all ladies that approach quarter of a century should aim.
Love: Love yourself; there is nothing narcissistic about it. If you don’t love yourself, who will love you? Imagine spending another quarter of a century in an unhappy relationship with the one person you cannot escape: yourself. Perhaps start a list of all the things you love about yourself, your body or mind – you might be pleasantly surprised.
Forgive: Holding onto resentment and hate embitters the soul. An old saying goes that when you hate, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the enemy to die. Forgive, even if the people in question are not sorry. It shows that you are able to move on and cleanse your present – and forgiveness can liberate the soul.
Plan: Sometimes plans work and other times, going off the designated path can lead to wondrous surprises. Personally I like to start every year with setting five or six goals I would like to attain. At age 25, I feel the urge to develop a five year plan before the big and inevitable 30!
Never stop learning: Learning doesn’t only take place in the classroom. A boring life is one of no surprises, so seek inspiration. Be inquisitive and remember that sense of wonder from childhood. Why not discover new software, read a new genre, start learning French? The possibilities are infinite – so if not now, when?
Be you: Be strong and wise enough to not define yourself by your relationships. Too often, women lose their sense of self and individuality when two people mesh and enter a relationship. You don’t have to like what he likes and forget your passions. The same can be said with female friends; are you putting on a persona in front of them or are you always being your authentic self?
Let go: Sadly, some relationships and friendships have a use-by date. The silver lining can be a lesson or a memory we keep from them. Letting go of people is inevitable and you have to release toxic ties or ones that are not fixable. Change is a part of life and letting go requires bravery. Accept change!
Go to concerts: Music is divine and before you are crippled with bills, mortgages, etc., why not spend some $ on seeing your favourite bands? You might see some cute boys in the mosh pit, too.
Take charge: If you are unhappy with your present, don’t blame the world for your problems – you are your problem. Your life is a series of decisions, so make them count and never stop making decisions to better yourself.
Give: If it means giving a homeless man a sandwich, volunteering or tutoring neighbourhood kids, there are numerous ways to give back and help shape your community or the world. The smallest action can have a reaction and the littlest gesture can mean something to someone. We are blessed and should share our blessings. You can give online, too.
Find your passion: Everyone has one, so dig deep. Mine is writing, but yours might be cooking, music, hockey, art, conservation. Find it and share it with the world. You might not become famous or a millionaire, but by pursuing your passions you will find true happiness.
Heels: They make every woman feel sexier, thinner and more confident- so master the art of walking in them and find a pair or dozens you love.
Travel: Whether locally or internationally, a change or scenery can be enlightening and inspiring. You may learn to be independent, learn of different cultures and times and lose or find yourself.
Be ambitious: Stay true to your dreams, no matter how unrealistic they may sound. Sometimes they sound unrealistic because we cloud them with fear.
Be money savvy: It can be hard to save with university debt or rent or 16 daily cups of coffee, but having a little money nest never hurt anyone. Set up a weekly savings goal and it can be as little as $20 a week. As you approach 25, financial independence is crucial ladies.
Fall in love: You can’t plan to fall in love, but by the time you reach 25, you should be able to identify the highs and lows of passionate love. Whether it lasts or not, love leaves us not quite the same.
Gratitude: “Thank you” is seldom heard, yet it’s a phrase that can make a person’s day. So what do you appreciate and for whom are you thankful? Tell them!
Party all night: Party all night and work all day; nothing tests your spirit more than this concoction. Show the world you are not getting too old and dance/streak/drink till 3am and show up at work with sunglasses and a cheeky grin. Don’t forget your inner bad-ass.
Have a wide circle of friends: Having male and female friends ranging from school/work/Twitter/relatives gives you a wide spectrum of opinions, beliefs and topic to discuss. You continuously grow and evolve when you have quality people guiding you.
Start a diary: It may be your blog or a journal, but writing things down can be therapeutic, save you hundreds in therapy and preserve remnants of your past. Diaries are that friend that never judges and when you read them back you relive the good and see how you’ve grown from the bad.
Get fit: Obesity is soaring and alarming. Find a sport or activity you enjoy and makes you sweat. Find your inner supermodel.
Find: Find a quality hairdresser, dentist, mechanic, IT support and barista. They make life easier.
Ask for help: Asking for help does not signify weakness and at times problems can be bigger than us. So asking for help and admitting to struggling whether with work or your thoughts or addiction is important. Asking for help is the first step towards resolution.
Have a wardrobe with: Own at least one faux leather jacket, a sexy party dress, an edgy blazer, a distinctive handbag, signature perfume and rock some red lipstick. Timeless!
Hug: Never underestimate the power of a hug.
Zen in Nature: Re-discover the majesty of the ocean or forest and become one step closer to nirvana. Be at one with nature, let it heal you and never forget that nature is our mother.
Get your nerd on: Don’t apologise for your love of Harry Potter, fan-fiction, cat videos or mismatched socks. Nerds rule the world!
1. Define your own definition of work happiness and satisfaction
What does being happy mean to you?What about work satisfaction? Is it flourishing? Is it belonging and feeling valued? Is it achieving? Is it seeing a task to completion? Seeing a customer or client smile, is that a priority? Everyone has a different defintion of the word happiness. Start with these questions as a baseline. Is there anyway you can bring them into your current role? Even if the boss and management couldn’t care, do you care enough to take full accountability for your happiness?
2. No two days are ever going to be the same
What I learned from the bank was I approached each day in the same way. I had already decided how the day was going to go before I even got there (Read: The Pits. Devils Hall) At every opportunity see each day as a new day, each interaction and communication as new, every event as new. I’m asking you to take a massive mindset shift, you can do it, you are much stronger than a role or what you ‘do’, you and I can choose how we want to feel and our state of mind in a second.
3. Be the best
At what you do. Look for ways to give it your all. Hate the bosses and management? Then do it for customers and clients. Start setting your own high standards. Being the best is not competition, it’s about recognising and being proud of your own skills and abilities. Use them. Excellence, the tiny things will make you happy, even if the company doesn’t raise a smile.
Be creative, even if it’s not encouraged. Play isn’t just reserved for children. It doesn’t even have to be childlike. Some organisations try to change their working environment to the benefit of employees, but does putting in a gym or a creative room cut it though? Do benefits create happier work environments?
Play and happiness isn’t a tactic or a system.
Work happiness isn’t a set of rules to be followed or forced.
It’s not reserved for team away days or for you to ‘learn’ on a training course you’ve been sent on.
A happy work environment isn’t about resources and objects it has to become part of the mission: it’s all encompassing and is the culture of the organisation.
Here’s the thing, you are the culture. You may not think you are but if an organisation is paying you for your skills, then you shape the culture. Yes, I know you may disagree with me, you may feel you have no power or status when it come to making decisions in a large company. But you do. Read number 3 again.
5. Create your own standards of excellence
You have the power to decide and write your own personal standards. What personal rules can you live with at work? What’s negotiable and non-negotiable? But I hate it, you cry. Okay, I get it, honest I do. Be exceptional anyway. Don’t let something you are paid for lower your capability for displaying excellence, you are worth more.
6. Be the person you would love to work with
Speaks for itself. Its’ so easy to get caught up in the negativity and pessimism of others. When the role no longer fits who you are, it’s pretty common to moan, grump and be the misery. Think about your ideal workmate: what qualities would they have, how would they treat others, how would they speak, be them. If you recognise the qualities, you have them.
7. Be engaged and engaging
With honesty and genuineness be interested in other people, show approachability and warmth. Listen to understand, be empathic. Make people feel important, but do it with sincerity.
8. Play outside of work
Important —>Recognise you are not your job, you are not your career or what you get paid for. Take accountability for your happiness outside work. If you are thinking of a move, can you volunteer in the field you ultimately want to work in? Can you take weekend courses? Can you build in more time with your friends?
9. Give thanks and appreciation + recognise/acknowledge great work
Even if the organisation or culture doesn’t do it, you can. Acknowledge other people and the work they do: if it’s great tell them. If you spot something that was a great idea, say so. Appreciate the good moments, be there, be present, say thanks, be the person that is creating a new culture.
1o. Be altruistic
Give without expecting nothing in return.What! Yeah, toughie for most of us. Try it for a month. Just try. Don’t be a pushover though, that’s not being altruistic. Altruism is about being motivated to give something in return for nothing, but not of duty or loyality.
1. Work on your nonverbal communication skills. Those are as important as the actual words you speak. Aim to come across as being warm, friendly, approachable, relaxed and self-confident.
2. Dress in accordance with the Company’s norms. If employees dress in a formal way, wear plain, business type clothing. If their style is more casual and relaxed, dress in more casual clothing, too. However, you should always look clean, tidy and smell fresh!
3. Listen carefully to what the interviewer says. Give them your full and undivided attention. Be attentive to their nonverbal cues, and communicate that you’ve heard what they have said.
4. Answer their questions as fully as you can – but don’t come across as being loud or talkative. Keep to the point, don’t ramble, and don’t say more than you need to say. However, include examples of your skills and experience to back up what you’re saying.
5. Remember that this is a professional setting. You need to keep a respectful distance. Be alert to appearing too forward and familiar. Let the interviewer take the initiative when it comes to asking questions and making conversation.
6. Only use appropriate language. Don’t swear, use slang, or any words that have double meanings or sexual connotations.
7. Have some knowledge of the Company and the position. Also, prepare a few brief questions to ask at the end so it looks as if you’re truly interested in the job (but don’t come across as being desperate to be hired.)