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25 Things to Do Before Turning 25

Sun, 19 May 2013 20:06:22 +0900

As I have a looming 25th birthday on January 25th, here are a few things for which all ladies that approach quarter of a century should aim.

Love: Love yourself; there is nothing narcissistic about it. If you don’t love yourself, who will love you? Imagine spending another quarter of a century in an unhappy relationship with the one person you cannot escape: yourself. Perhaps start a list of all the things you love about yourself, your body or mind – you might be pleasantly surprised.

Forgive: Holding onto resentment and hate embitters the soul. An old saying goes that when you hate, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the enemy to die. Forgive, even if the people in question are not sorry. It shows that you are able to move on and cleanse your present – and forgiveness can liberate the soul.

Plan: Sometimes plans work and other times, going off the designated path can lead to wondrous surprises. Personally I like to start every year with setting five or six goals I would like to attain. At age 25, I feel the urge to develop a five year plan before the big and inevitable 30!

Never stop learning: Learning doesn’t only take place in the classroom. A boring life is one of no surprises, so seek inspiration. Be inquisitive and remember that sense of wonder from childhood. Why not discover new software, read a new genre, start learning French? The possibilities are infinite – so if not now, when?

Be you: Be strong and wise enough to not define yourself by your relationships. Too often, women lose their sense of self and individuality when two people mesh and enter a relationship. You don’t have to like what he likes and forget your passions. The same can be said with female friends; are you putting on a persona in front of them or are you always being your authentic self?

Let go: Sadly, some relationships and friendships have a use-by date. The silver lining can be a lesson or a memory we keep from them. Letting go of people is inevitable and you have to release toxic ties or ones that are not fixable. Change is a part of life and letting go requires bravery. Accept change!

Go to concerts: Music is divine and before you are crippled with bills, mortgages, etc., why not spend some $ on seeing your favourite bands? You might see some cute boys in the mosh pit, too.

Take charge: If you are unhappy with your present, don’t blame the world for your problems – you are your problem. Your life is a series of decisions, so make them count and never stop making decisions to better yourself.

Give: If it means giving a homeless man a sandwich, volunteering or tutoring neighbourhood kids, there are numerous ways to give back and help shape your community or the world. The smallest action can have a reaction and the littlest gesture can mean something to someone. We are blessed and should share our blessings. You can give online, too.

Find your passion: Everyone has one, so dig deep. Mine is writing, but yours might be cooking, music, hockey, art, conservation. Find it and share it with the world. You might not become famous or a millionaire, but by pursuing your passions you will find true happiness.

Heels: They make every woman feel sexier, thinner and more confident- so master the art of walking in them and find a pair or dozens you love.

Travel: Whether locally or internationally, a change or scenery can be enlightening and inspiring. You may learn to be independent, learn of different cultures and times and lose or find yourself.

Be ambitious: Stay true to your dreams, no matter how unrealistic they may sound. Sometimes they sound unrealistic because we cloud them with fear.

Be money savvy: It can be hard to save with university debt or rent or 16 daily cups of coffee, but having a little money nest never hurt anyone. Set up a weekly savings goal and it can be as little as $20 a week. As you approach 25, financial independence is crucial ladies.

Fall in love: You can’t plan to fall in love, but by the time you reach 25, you should be able to identify the highs and lows of passionate love. Whether it lasts or not, love leaves us not quite the same.

Gratitude: “Thank you” is seldom heard, yet it’s a phrase that can make a person’s day. So what do you appreciate and for whom are you thankful? Tell them!

Party all night: Party all night and work all day; nothing tests your spirit more than this concoction. Show the world you are not getting too old and dance/streak/drink till 3am and show up at work with sunglasses and a cheeky grin. Don’t forget your inner bad-ass.

Have a wide circle of friends: Having male and female friends ranging from school/work/Twitter/relatives gives you a wide spectrum of opinions, beliefs and topic to discuss. You continuously grow and evolve when you have quality people guiding you.

Start a diary: It may be your blog or a journal, but writing things down can be therapeutic, save you hundreds in therapy and preserve remnants of your past. Diaries are that friend that never judges and when you read them back you relive the good and see how you’ve grown from the bad.

Get fit: Obesity is soaring and alarming. Find a sport or activity you enjoy and makes you sweat. Find your inner supermodel.

Find: Find a quality hairdresser, dentist, mechanic, IT support and barista. They make life easier.

Ask for help: Asking for help does not signify weakness and at times problems can be bigger than us. So asking for help and admitting to struggling whether with work or your thoughts or addiction is important. Asking for help is the first step towards resolution.

Have a wardrobe with: Own at least one faux leather jacket, a sexy party dress, an edgy blazer, a distinctive handbag, signature perfume and rock some red lipstick. Timeless!

Hug: Never underestimate the power of a hug.

Zen in Nature: Re-discover the majesty of the ocean or forest and become one step closer to nirvana. Be at one with nature, let it heal you and never forget that nature is our mother.

Get your nerd on: Don’t apologise for your love of Harry Potter, fan-fiction, cat videos or mismatched socks. Nerds rule the world!

101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself

Mon, 06 May 2013 20:55:07 +0900

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Who are you?

What are you passionate about?

What are the achievements you are most proud of?

What are you most grateful for in life?

What are the most important things to you in life?

How would you describe yourself?

What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?

Do you love yourself?

… Why or Why not?

How can you love yourself more today?

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THE Playlist

Wed, 24 Apr 2013 23:17:15 +0900

Stay
You’re Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go
You’ve Really Got A Hold On Me
Time After Time
Call
Payphone
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When you call weekdays "Shitty Days"

Sat, 13 Apr 2013 21:09:02 +0900

10 Ways to Be Happy at Work (Even If You Hate It)

1. Define your own definition of work happiness and satisfaction

What does being happy mean to you? What about work satisfaction? Is it flourishing? Is it belonging and feeling valued? Is it achieving? Is it seeing a task to completion? Seeing a customer or client smile, is that a priority? Everyone has a different defintion of the word happiness. Start with these questions as a baseline. Is there anyway you can bring them into your current role? Even if the boss and management couldn’t care, do you care enough to take full accountability for your happiness?

2. No two days are ever going to be the same

What I learned from the bank was I approached each day in the same way. I had already decided how the day was going to go before I even got there (Read: The Pits. Devils Hall) At every opportunity see each day as a new day, each interaction and communication as new, every event as new. I’m asking you to take a massive mindset shift, you can do it, you are much stronger than a role or what you ‘do’, you and I can choose how we want to feel and our state of mind in a second.

3. Be the best

At what you do. Look for ways to give it your all. Hate the bosses and management? Then do it for customers and clients. Start setting your own high standards. Being the best is not competition, it’s about recognising and being proud of your own skills and abilities. Use them. Excellence, the tiny things will make you happy, even if the company doesn’t raise a smile.

4. Play

Be creative, even if it’s not encouraged. Play isn’t just reserved for children. It doesn’t even have to be childlike. Some organisations try to change their working environment to the benefit of employees, but does putting in a gym or a creative room cut it though? Do benefits create happier work environments?

Play and happiness isn’t a tactic or a system.
Work happiness isn’t a set of rules to be followed or forced.
It’s not reserved for team away days or for you to ‘learn’ on a training course you’ve been sent on.

A happy work environment isn’t about resources and objects it has to become part of the mission: it’s all encompassing and is the culture of the organisation.

Here’s the thing, you are the culture. You may not think you are but if an organisation is paying you for your skills, then you shape the culture. Yes, I know you may disagree with me, you may feel you have no power or status when it come to making decisions in a large company. But you do. Read number 3 again.

5. Create your own standards of excellence

You have the power to decide and write your own personal standards. What personal rules can you live with at work? What’s negotiable and non-negotiable? But I hate it, you cry. Okay, I get it, honest I do. Be exceptional anyway. Don’t let something you are paid for lower your capability for displaying excellence, you are worth more.

6. Be the person you would love to work with

Speaks for itself. Its’ so easy to get caught up in the negativity and pessimism of others. When the role no longer fits who you are, it’s pretty common to moan, grump and be the misery. Think about your ideal workmate: what qualities would they have, how would they treat others, how would they speak, be them. If you recognise the qualities, you have them.

7. Be engaged and engaging

With honesty and genuineness be interested in other people, show approachability and warmth. Listen to understand, be empathic. Make people feel important, but do it with sincerity.

8. Play outside of work

Important —>Recognise you are not your job, you are not your career or what you get paid for. Take accountability for your happiness outside work. If you are thinking of a move, can you volunteer in the field you ultimately want to work in? Can you take weekend courses? Can you build in more time with your friends?

9. Give thanks and appreciation + recognise/acknowledge great work

Even if the organisation or culture doesn’t do it, you can. Acknowledge other people and the work they do: if it’s great tell them. If you spot something that was a great idea, say so. Appreciate the good moments, be there, be present, say thanks, be the person that is creating a new culture.

1o. Be altruistic

Give without expecting nothing in return. What! Yeah, toughie for most of us. Try it for a month. Just try. Don’t be a pushover though, that’s not being altruistic. Altruism is about being motivated to give something in return for nothing, but not of duty or loyality.

SOURCE: http://dawnbarclay.com/10-ways-to-be-happy-at-work-even-if-you-hate-it

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 7 Tips for Interview Success

Thu, 21 Mar 2013 21:42:49 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 7 Tips for Interview Success:

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1. Work on your nonverbal communication skills. Those are as important as the actual words you speak. Aim to come across as being warm, friendly, approachable, relaxed and self-confident.

2. Dress in accordance with the Company’s norms. If employees dress in a formal way, wear plain, business type clothing. If their style is more casual and relaxed, dress in more casual clothing, too. However, you should always look clean, tidy and smell fresh!

3. Listen carefully to what the interviewer says. Give them your full and undivided attention. Be attentive to their nonverbal cues, and communicate that you’ve heard what they have said.

4. Answer their questions as fully as you can – but don’t come across as being loud or talkative. Keep to the point, don’t ramble, and don’t say more than you need to say. However, include examples of your skills and experience to back up what you’re saying.

5. Remember that this is a professional setting. You need to keep a respectful distance. Be alert to appearing too forward and familiar. Let the interviewer take the initiative when it comes to asking questions and making conversation.

6. Only use appropriate language. Don’t swear, use slang, or any words that have double meanings or sexual connotations.

7. Have some knowledge of the Company and the position. Also, prepare a few brief questions to ask at the end so it looks as if you’re truly interested in the job (but don’t come across as being desperate to be hired.)

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 11 Jobs You Could Do With a Bachelor In Psychology

Thu, 21 Mar 2013 21:42:32 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 11 Jobs You Could Do With a Bachelor In Psychology :

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1. Sales Representatives

Undergraduate psychology programs help students acquire a wide range of interpersonal skills, which can then be put to use in a number of different sales and marketing positions. Employers value skills such as the ability to speak well and…

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 6 Things to Avoid Before Going to Bed

Mon, 18 Mar 2013 07:22:29 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 6 Things to Avoid Before Going to Bed:

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onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Exercising: Exercising raises your body temperature for up to three hours. That can make it harder to relax and fall asleep.

2. Having a hot shower or bath: Although a bath can be relaxing, if it’s too late at night your body won’t have…

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): The Truth about Life

Thu, 21 Feb 2013 23:24:17 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): The Truth about Life :

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1. No-one has all the answers; much of life is a total mystery.

2. No job is “just perfect” or ideal for you. They all have their boring and frustrating times.

3. There are no perfect people - everybody lets you down at times – for even the best people have…

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Thu, 21 Feb 2013 23:23:20 +0900

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Work-Life Balance

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 15:35:41 +0900

1) Self-Management

Sufficiently managing one’s self can be challenging, particularly in getting proper sleep, exercise, and nutrition. Self-management is the recognition that effectively using the spaces in our lives is vital, and that available resources, time, and life are finite. It means becoming captain of our own ship; no one is coming to steer for us.

2) Time Management

Effective time management involves making optimal use of your day and the supporting resources that can be summoned – you keep pace when your resources match your challenges. Time management is enhanced through appropriate goals and discerning what is both important and urgent, versus important or urgent. It entails knowing what you do best and when, and assembling the appro-priate tools to accomplish specific tasks.

3) Stress Management

By nature, societies tend to become more complex over time. In the face of increasing complexity, stress on the individual is inevitable. More people, distractions, and noise require each of us to become adept at maintaining tranquility and working ourselves out of pressure-filled situations. Most forms of multi-tasking ultimately increase our stress, versus focusing on one thing at a time.

4) Change Management

In our fast-paced world, change is virtually the only constant. Continually adopting new methods and re-adapting others is vital to a successful career and a happy home life. Effective change management involves making periodic and concerted efforts to ensure that the volume and rate of change at work and at home does not overwhelm or defeat you.

5) Technology Management

Effectively managing technology means ensuring that technology serves you, rather than abuses you. Technology has always been with us, since the first walking stick, flint, spear, and wheel. Now, the rate of change is accelerating, brought on by vendors seeking expanding market share. Often there is no choice but to keep up with the technological Joneses, but you must rule technology, not vice versa.

6) Leisure Management

The most overlooked of the work-life balance supporting disciplines, leisure management acknowledges the importance of rest and relaxation- that one can’t short-change leisure, and that “time off” is a vital component of the human experience. Curiously, too much of the same leisure activity, however enjoyable, can lead to monotony. Thus, effective leisure management requires varying one’s activities.

Source: http://work-lifebalance.com/

"Your real job is to make yourself as adaptable, responsive, intelligent, and skillful in as many..."

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 15:26:44 +0900

““Your real job is to make yourself as adaptable, responsive, intelligent, and skillful in as many situations as possible, then you can choose where you ultimately want to be.””

- Tevis Rose Trower, work-life expert and founder of Balance Integration Corp. in New York City.

How are your emotions harming you.

Sun, 13 Jan 2013 11:42:28 +0900

How are your emotions harming you.

WORDS TO LIVE BY —- Regina Brett <3

Sun, 13 Jan 2013 11:28:54 +0900

WORDS TO LIVE BY —- Regina Brett <3

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 10 Health Facts About Drinking Tea

Sat, 12 Jan 2013 01:28:47 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): 10 Health Facts About Drinking Tea:

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Tea contains antioxidants. Antioxidants can help slow down the aging process, and help cells regenerate and repair. Many studies suggest antioxidants also assist our bodies in preventing cancer.

Tea can lower stress hormone levels. Black tea can reduce the effects of…

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😘🐶💋 he’s turning 4 years old this coming Saturday 🎂🎈🎊🎉🎁

Thu, 10 Jan 2013 21:45:38 +0900

😘🐶💋 he’s turning 4 years old this coming Saturday 🎂🎈🎊🎉🎁

20 Body Language Facts

Wed, 09 Jan 2013 21:20:14 +0900

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Scientists once said that body language accounts for 80% of the message we try to tell others and that what we actually say is only 20%. Body language definitely plays an important role in communication.

Body language is used to convey things that we may not be fully aware of. We are not fully conscious of signals we give off to others through our body language and what others are trying to send off to us.

Furthermore, body language means different things in different cultures or context. For example, direct eye contact is usually a sign of respect or interest, but in other cultures like Japan, eye contact is actually disrespect. Hence, when trying to read body language, pay careful consideration into the cultural and situational context.

Here I have a list of 20 body language and what they generally mean in Western culture.

Squinting - When people see what they don’t like, feel threatened, or are unhappy, they squint their eyes.

Arched Eyebrows - When we raise our eyebrows, it means we are contemplating what we’re listening to and that we’re mildly intrigued.

Direct Eye Contact - means we’re interested, we’re listening, and that we’re focused on you. It also conveys that we got nothing to hide.

Blinking too much - means we’re nervous or anxious

Hands the Church Steeple - fingertips touching, palms facing apart conveys we’re thinking and that we’re about to make a decision or move.

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Mental Fitness Tips

Sat, 05 Jan 2013 23:18:17 +0900

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onlinecounsellingcollege:

Here are some simple ways to practice mental fitness:

1. Daydream – Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a dream location. Breathe slowly and deeply. Let the comforting environment wrap you in a sensation of peace and tranquility.

2. “Collect” positive emotional moments – Make it a point to recall times when you have experienced pleasure, comfort, tenderness, confidence, or other positive emotions.

3. Learn ways to cope with negative thoughts – Negative thoughts can be insistent and loud. Learn to interrupt them. Don’t try to block them (that never works), but don’t let them take over. Try distracting yourself or comforting yourself, if you can’t solve the problem right away.

4. Do one thing at a time – For example, when you are out for a walk or spending time with friends, turn off your cell phone and stop making that mental “to do” list. Take in all the sights, sounds and smells you encounter.

5. Exercise – Regular physical activity improves psychological well-being and can reduce depression and anxiety.

6. Enjoy hobbies – Taking up a hobby brings balance to your life by allowing you to do something you enjoy because you want to do it, free of the pressure of everyday tasks. It also keeps your brain active.

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Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): Tips for Making More Effective New Year’s Resolutions

Tue, 01 Jan 2013 21:00:15 +0900

Psychology Blog (Neurolove/psych-facts): Tips for Making More Effective New Year’s Resolutions:

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onlinecounsellingcollege:

Ask yourself:

1. Will it make me happier, and more fulfilled, as person?

2. Will it make me more like the person I would like to be (personally and professionally)?

3. How can I describe my resolutions in clear, concrete and observable ways? (Plans that are…

2012-09-19: Costumes!

Fri, 28 Dec 2012 20:04:56 +0900

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Konnichiwa!

Here are our costumes for our free this season!

I really love them(＝⌒▽⌒＝)

But, we’re only going to show you the back for now

I hope everyone’s excited for the season to begin!!

Narumi

And I was so excited to see the front… 3